Most people stay stuck at the same level of mind for 1, 5, or 10 years.

When you question it they say, "Damn. Time flies doesn't it? Some things never change."

WRONG.

Time is irrelevant here.

Things do change, it's just that You didn't.

If you've ever gone back to a place (or people) and thought to yourself, "Damn. So many years have passed by. Why does it feel like nothing has changed?", realize this:

It's not about how much time has passed between then and now.

It's about how much change has happened (mindset, thoughts, behavior) between then and now.

I recently went back to my hometown. I saw the entire house has been repainted and renovated. I go to my room with my brother, and the first thing I do (like each year) is look down there.

It's been 5 years, I think to myself.

"Can you believe COVID was 5 years ago?", I asked him.

He stayed silent.

"Do you think much has changed? It feels like just yesterday I was lying down there on the mattress, facetiming my girl first thing in the morning,.

You sitting in the corner there looking at flying school to become a pilot.

All 4 of us just chilling here without a care in the world"

He said, "I think a lot has changed for sure. It's just that we find it hard to see it"

That's when this thought hit me, that time is so weird.

When you're in a breakup phase, all you see around you is pain and suffering for months. But when you look back, it only feels like a few days.

Even right now you might be going through something hard,

• Your friend passed away

• Building a physique

• Building a business

But years (or months) from now, you will not understand why you had those emotions and thoughts in the first place.

And I think it's because you can never have access to that state of mind again; because all that exists is right now… The Present.

And when I questioned myself, "Has anything really changed? Have I changed? Am I in the still state of mind I was in 5 years ago? Do I still have thought patterns and leftover emotions from my breakup half a decade back?"

And finally the insight hit me:

There are two 'Me's that exist in alternate universes.

One 'Me' is who I am right now, the one who took 3 years to get over the breakup.

And the other 'Me', got jacked as f*ck in 8 months.

Even though a lot of time has passed for Me #1,

Me #2 has matured exponentially more.

This is because Time is Irrelevant to Change.

You can have 37 year-old boys who still cry and run to mommy when they get a boo-boo.

And there are 14 year-old men who are building their mind, body, spirit and business to save their bloodline.

So how do you actually bring about this change?

And here's where I want to introduce a concept that you think you know,

but you've learned it all wrong since childhood.

It's called Learning.

Learning means, Same Condition, New Behavior.

Intelligence means Rate of Learning (i.e. How many times do you have to be exposed to the same condition to change your behavior?)

If you want to become 'smarter', you reduce the number of times it takes for you to change your behavior when you're exposed to the same information / situation.

If you feel like, you've been repeating

• the same 6 months of your life,

• the same fruitless relationships,

• the same state of mind,

You haven't changed. You haven't learned anything. And that's a miserable place to be in (because you can never get that time back).

How to solve stagnation in your life (in 8 dumb steps):

• When you feel like shit, sit with it in silence, let it make you uncomfortable.

• Write down exactly those images, thoughts, experiences, that went through your mind when you were feeling like shit.

• Identify what the opposite side of the coin is, i.e., what you want to feel instead of this negative emotion.

• Keep the negative emotion at the back of your mind, and the action at the forefront.

• Research on mindset, behavior, and habits you can change to change your current state of mind.

• When you get that 'aha' moment, apply that change to your life immediately (No. 'The Perfect Moment' doesn't exist).

• Most times, you won't get your problem solved in the first try. Don't Quit. Try Again. Throw shit on the wall, see what sticks.

• Do it all over again when this system starts to fail with time (as all things do).